“Our life is full of emotions. We, as owner of our emotions can dictate and channelize them for our and for other’s benefit.” Subodh Sharma”
What is an emotion?
An emotion is usually an aftereffect. It is a visible, often over-proportionate outcome/part of a reaction after we see, smell, hear, speak, feel or think something. Essentially it is an expression and a part of a reaction after we use (or ignore) our senses. The reaction as a whole comprises of changes in our body including chemical changes, stiffness changes and expression changes. Emotions are normally facial and body expression changes supported by changes in chemical generation (or degeneration) and body stiffness.
An emotion is a totally controllable outcome. It depends on how seriously and rapidly we practice to control it right on (the spot) requirement. It is actually reversible also. A very simple example is the expression that every threat is an opportunity. This expression is exactly reversing an emotion of fear into an emotion of courage.
Can you spot what emotion is reversed in the below sentence?
My family is not helping me enough. I need to convince my family to help me.
It reverses Helplessness to Hope and Confidence.
The capability of controlling and reversing an emotion grows with age. (Don’t worry when your child is crying on a small thing, it matters to him and he still has no emotion controlling skills. So crying becomes natural, emotional choice/outcome). Children who are exceptional in communication, learn this skill faster.
Primary categories of emotions
While reading about emotions, I and VJ very interestingly came across a lot of literature that is only written around negative emotions. We were actually surprised. Positive emotions were completely ignored in the literature.
We believe (and everyone encounters this fact) that there are countless emotions in our life. There are positive and negatively influencing emotions. I and VJ went through many emotions, dissecting word by word to see where they all fit in. We agreed that an emotion is an essential part of a reaction, and it can trigger a positive or a negative outcome. Based on this simple fact, we decided to divide all the emotions into two primary categories;
- Constructive emotions
The emotions that help boost our willingness to achieve a little better, try a little harder, love a little more and help us build our life in a developing, rising and satisfying way are the constructive emotions.
Can you think of an example? ()
Happiness, success, win, desired companionship, love, sex, laughter, courage, confidence, patience, humbleness, crying out of happiness, helping others, forgiving, satisfaction, and more!
- Destructive emotions
The emotions that aren’t helpful in our progression towards a meaningful, happy and satisfying life are destructive emotions.
Some examples are; loneliness, anxiety, worthlessness, fear, anger, disapproval, failure, deserted, insecure, rejection and more alike feelings.
The best and easiest way to deal with them is to shrug them off right away until we learn and practice the art of converting destructive emotions to constructive emotions.
Emotions are the fruits of what we feed our mind with. Sometimes they are completely hypothetical because our feed to our mind is imaginary.
As we discussed earlier on this page, emotions are reversible. We can reverse a destructive emotion to a constructive emotion and we can strengthen a constructive emotion to the next level by practicing the same process and principles. Be cautious that we can, unwillingly in most of the cases, also reverse a constructive emotion into a destructive emotion due to either our negligence or by our actions.
Choose, act and respond wisely because outcome of an emotional pressure usually defines the future path of the bearer.